Third try is a charm? I hope!

Has it really been so long since my last post? That just tells you how busy I have been. First off, we sold our house in town, and built a new house on our 40 acres in the country. I also now have 3 grandchildren! and of course my kiddos keep me moving all the time. Update on Song: After a successful attempt at putting Digger and Pixie in to public school, we thought it was time for Song to spread her wings. (in other words, for me to kick her out of the nest and send her to public school as well)First attempt was the local public school. It was a disaster. She lied to me every day that she was doing well. I was getting emails every day from teachers that she was letting boys kiss her, late to class, not prepared, lost in the hall, passing notes, kicking boys under the table, and almost failing math because she was not paying attention. So, after 18 school days, I brought her back to home school. She is in 7th grade this year. In my mind I kept looking for the appropriate school for her. I found a small Christian school. On her day visit to the school, she told the girls she was pregnant, by a boy in the public school who raped her. It got her lots of attention, sent my husband over the edge until I told him she was lying, and to go get a pregnancy test so we could put the matter to rest. She is not pregnant, of course. My last attempt started yesterday. It's a local partial hospitalization school for kiddos with emotional and behavioral problems. They do intensive therapy, and then slowly transition her back to the public school. Next month we have a meeting with a psychiatrist who saw her when she was 5. He thinks she is causing problems so she can stay home where she feels safe. I think he may be right. He said us "pushing her" out the door and in to school is making her uneasy. I'm hoping the evaluation will answer the questions I have about wth she thinks she is going to achieve by acting this way. My guess is it's a combination of her Attachment disorder, and possibly a processing issue. Also, an interesting fact here...her bio brother has been diagnosed autism spectrum. Today she told me that in therapy they were asked about anxiety and what makes them anxious. She told them she is anxious when she can't see me. They then asked what calms you down, she said "being with my mom". This is not the path I meant to be on in my life, but I think it's exactly where I was supposed to be.